What is grief?
Grief is a natural response to loss. It is often experienced after the death of someone important to us, but it can also occur after other significant losses.
Following road trauma, grief may be experienced after the death of a loved one, a serious injury, changes to health or independence, the loss of important relationships, employment, future plans, or the life you knew before the crash.
Grief can feel overwhelming because of the intensity and unpredictability of the emotions, thoughts and physical reactions that can occur.
Everyone experiences grief differently, and grief may be expressed in different ways across cultures, families and communities.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Grief can affect many areas of our lives, including how we feel, think, behave, connect with others, and make sense of the world around us. It can have significant impact on our physical health and wellbeing
Most people learn to live with their loss over time with support from family, friends and their community.
Grief also has no set timeline. It can return around birthdays, anniversaries, or other meaningful moments, and these feelings may be just as strong as they were at the beginning. Knowing this can help you prepare for these times.
What helps after road trauma?
When you’re dealing with grief and loss, it can be hard to look after yourself. But even small acts of self-care can help you cope day-to-day. Self care can include:
- Take care of your health by eating regular meals, getting enough sleep, and moving your body. Try to keep a normal routine as much as possible.
- Write or draw your feelings in a journal or notebook to help release emotions.
- Create a simple memorial or ritual to remember your loved one – like lighting a candle, planting a tree, or having a special place to think of them.
- Do something meaningful in their name, such as donating to their favourite charity or joining a fundraising event.
- Join a support group to connect with others who understand what you’re going through.
- Do things that calm and comfort you, like listening to music, walking, or spending quiet time in nature.
- Talk to family and friends to share stories, memories, and feelings. Staying connected can reduce loneliness and help you feel supported.
- Let others help when they offer. Practical and emotional support can make it easier to get back into a routine and help you feel connected.
- Try to delay big decisions for 6-12 months, especially ones you can’t undo, like getting rid of personal belongings or moving house.
When to seek help
Most people adjust to their loss over time with support from family and friends. But when a loss happens suddenly or in a traumatic way; like a road crash, grief can feel more intense or complicated.
You may benefit from extra support if:
- you are struggling with everyday tasks.
- your grief feels constant or overwhelming.
- your reactions aren’t easing over time.
- you feel “stuck” and unable to cope.
Who can help?
If you would like additional support, speak with your General Practitioner (GP). They can provide advice and connect you with appropriate services in your local area, such as a Counsellor or Psychologist.
Talking to a trained professional can provide a safe, confidential and supportive space to explore your thoughts, feelings and experiences.
